"We need to talk." These four words are never any good. It only ever means one things said in a variety of ways: It's over. We're through. Let's break up.
When it finally happens, you can't believe what's going on. Is he breaking up with you? Oh God, he's breaking up with you. Like a bad movie, the two of you are finally alone and "talking." But not a single word he's saying is making any sense.
No, you didn't snap a synapse when he dropped the bomb. You didn't go deaf or slip into an alternate reality. This is all really happening and very little of it makes any sense at the start. Breaking up, going your own ways, ceasing to be a couple-call it what you will-is, after all, about differences. With this as a starting point, it's all bound to be confusing.
Wait a minute. I've got news for you: believe it or not, most guys don't want to break up with anyone. So when they do, it's for a good reason. For one thing, guys have been told since they were little boys not to hurt girls. And just so they won't hurt their girls, some guys will never initiate a break up, waiting instead for the girl to break up with them. They'll be a jerk, be distant, even commit heinous crimes like two-timing. They'll do anything and everything, as long as they don't hurt you. Am I making any sense yet? It gets more confusing.
To complicate matters further, guys were probably the ones who started the whole thing in the first place. They were the ones who did the courting. The ones who bought the dinners, the flowers, and the chocolates. To suddenly change one's mind in the middle of the game somehow seems wrong. And, of course, they don't want the burden of guilt. All that said, if your boyfriend is breaking up with you, then at least he's being straight with you. That is one thing to be thankful for. In the long run, it will save both of you from prolonging the pain. ts an old style na............................
